Tag: How to be a good friend

Want to find a good friend? Be a good friend!


~ by Tricia Goyer ~

5 Traits of a Good Friend (and How to Help Kids Develop Them) from Faith Gateway

If we want our kids to seek out positive qualities in friends, they also need to possess them. So, what character qualities are important to seek out and help grow in our kids?

Here are five traits of a good friend:

1. Truthfulness

It’s important for our kids to know that they can trust what their friends say is true. Nothing hurts as much as knowing you’ve been lied to. We can teach our children to look for friends who always tell the truth. We can also teach our kids to be truth-tellers, and that lying is a sin. One way to do this is to remind them that being truthful or untruthful reflects their character. “If you tell a lie about the small things how can I — or a friend — believe you in the big things?” Also, let’s be sure to praise our kids when we catch them telling the truth. Remember that what is praised is repeated.

2. Kindness

All of us like to be treated with kindness. Kindness means treating people with respect and putting another person’s needs before your own. Kind friends make everything easier — from play to simple conversations. We can teach our kids to be kind to others throughout the day, from siblings to the elder they may meet at the grocery store. Let’s point out to our children how much others appreciate when we are kind. To encourage positive behavior, praise how our child brings smiles to others’ faces.

3. Understanding differences

No two people are alike, and friends need to know that different doesn’t mean bad. Friendship is not about picking friends who are the same as us, but learning to understand and appreciate the differences of others. We must find ways to help our children share our family and cultural backgrounds and traditions with their friends, and invite their friends to do the same. The more our children learn to appreciate other people, the better prepared they will be to build all types of friendships throughout their lives.

4. Joy

No one likes to be around grumpy people, yet it’s hard to have a good attitude all the time. There will be times when our children’s friends may not have a good attitude. There are times all of us struggle with anger, frustration or disappointment, but in general we should look for friends who — for the most part — have an attitude that is filled with joy. We also need to model a joyful attitude for our kids. They model what they see. Finally, we can encourage good attitudes by telling our children how much we appreciate joyful attitudes. Reward like high-fives or hugs when we see them brightening up another person’s day with joy are a fun bonus!

5. Sharing

It’s important to share what we have with each other. Our children can be taught to thank their friends when their friends share with them. Also, they can learn to look for opportunities to share with others. Children should not be expected to share every special toy or book they have. Instead, we parents can work with them to pick out toys or books that they’ll be eager to share.

Overall, the friends our children choose will impact them for the rest of their lives. And by seeking out these five traits — and developing them — our child’s friendships will be off to a good start!
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Today is Best Friends Day! The Morning Thing shares the ABC’s of Friendship.

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Life is SO much better with friends.  They are the ones who love, laugh, support, and cherish us – in both good and bad times. Today is Best Friends Day! Take time to celebrate by spending time with the friends who make your life so much better.

Do you want to know how to be a good friend?
The bible has some clear direction on friendship.

John 15:13 New International Version (NIV)
13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 New International Version (NIV)
9 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.

Check out the ABC’s of Friendship from www.thoughtcatalog.com

Here are 26 simple lessons which can help you be the bestest best friend ever. Click HERE to read the full article.

1. Appreciate all things.

Say “Thank you” when your friend did something for you regardless of whether it’s a big thing or a small one. You can also write them a short note on a post-it or send a quick email of your appreciation. It would definitely make their day.

2. Be yourself.

Just be real and be who you are. You wouldn’t want someone who’s not authentic to the people around them right? Be open minded and strive to always improve yourself to be better each day.

3. Communicate honestly.

Your friend would appreciate brutal honesty than a lie. Ensure that you communicate the truth in a way that would not offend or hurt their feelings. Timing is important, too.

4. Date your friend.

Once in a while, ask your friend out. Go on a date with movies and food if the budget permits. Spending time together once in a while would strengthen your bond.

5. Encourage them.

Be sensitive of their situation. When they’re feeling down, cheer them up. Offer words that would lift their spirits up and boost their morale.

6. Forgive.

Your friend is human too, like you are and would sure make mistakes and hurt your feelings at one point. When this happens, put yourself in your friend’s shoes and consider where they are coming from. Forgive them and give your friendship a chance.

7. Give freely.

Whether it’s your time and/or resources, always find a way to extend a hand without expecting anything in return.

8. Hug.

Physical touch is comforting. If you feel like your friend needs a hug, hug them! There are times that words fail and your embrace would say it all.

9. Introduce them to your other circle of friends and family.

This would make them feel how proud you are that you have them in your life. It’s also an opportunity for them to meet new people and make new friends.

10. Join volunteer activities.

It’s awesome to do selfless things for other people, animals and nature while enjoying each other’s company at the same time.

11. Keep your promises.

Make only the promises that you can keep. If you are unsure, then do not commit. If you’ve already promised about doing something and then you find yourself in an unavoidable circumstance that may cause you to break your promise, explain the situation to your friend and apologize.

12. Listen attentively.

When your friend is talking, give your undivided attention. Stop whatever you’re doing and focus. Maintain eye contact and validate what is being said if necessary.

13. Motivate them often.

Be supportive of their aspirations, goals and dreams. If they are running a marathon, find time to run with them so they would feel your support and effort. Send motivational quotes through text, email or better yet, talk to them personally!

14. Never give up.

Your friendship would be challenged by many things along the way. Whatever happens, stick closer than a brother would.

15. Own up to your mistakes.

If you’ve committed anything that would put your friendship in jeopardy, confess it to your friend. Apologize sincerely to show how you value your friendship. Commit to an action plan to avoid doing it again.

16. Photograph the moments you’re together.

It’s not necessary to have a groupie all the time but make sure you take photos of your time spent together. Then have the photos printed so you can put it in your desk at work. You can insert in in a frame to put in your bedroom or in your wallet so it would feel like they’re with you wherever you go.

17. Quash the jealousy.

Your friends will also have other friends too, not just you. Do not make them feel bad about it.

18. Respect them.

Along the way, you may have some arguments and that’s completely normal. You are different individuals with unique ways of thinking. What matters most is that you respect each other’s point of view and opinions and continue being friends despite the differences.

19. Say “I love you”.

It may sound cheesy and all but it’s a word that they need to hear sometimes. It must be accompanied with actions in order for them to really feel and understand it.

20. Trust wholeheartedly.

Always give them the benefit of the doubt at any situation. If they lied to you or broke any promise, express your true feelings about it but give them a chance to start over again.

21. Understand their personality.

22. Visit when you can.

Do not just be together through social media sites. Make the time to see each other in real life.

23. Write a letter.

I know we now live in the digital age but a written letter from time to time can tug your friend’s heartstrings greatly.

24. Xtra effort is a must.

Maintaining an epic friendship requires effort from each other. Always find a way to communicate in all ways possible.

25. Yield to some arguments when needed.

Sometimes, there are debates that you have to concede on in order to save yourself, your friend and the relationship you’ve built together. You may lose but you win by keeping the person you love.

26. Zero negativity.

You’ve got to be an agent of positivity. We all know life is unfair but always find the silver lining in every situation. This would make you a good influence to your friend.

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