Do you like change?  HA!  Not many people would answer yes.  I’ve been thinking about that crazy word this week.  Two years ago, this week, the Rineharts made a decision to change our lives forever.  We decided to get a dog!  I will never forget the afternoon that we made the call to buy our little Belle.  We were all together downtown at the Dan Emmett Music and Arts Festival.  Rachel and I had been doing our research for about 2 months.  We needed a non-shedder since we all have allergies.  We wanted a small dog that could go with us to our many events.  We also wanted a dog that would snuggle.  So we found a cute 1.5 pound miniature Yorkie (who is now 3 pounds)! 

She has definintely changed our lives and has given us some new experiences. Some of these new experiences have been challenging, like cleaning up her little “deposits” from the back bedrooms, getting her to eat her own food or teaching her not to bark at everything that moves.  It’s amazing though that through every challenge, there is always a reward.  I LOVE having my little Belle greet me at the door every day when I come home.  It doesn’t matter what has happened during the day or what is waiting for me inside; I know that Belle will be super excited to see me when I walk through the door.  I know that she will be there to show me love.

I wish that I could remember that with each new challenge, there is a reward coming.  Are you like me?  I fight change.  My stomach gets upset, I don’t sleep well and I analyze every possible scenario of a situation.  God is teaching me to rest in His grace and to let Him have control.  In fact, Proverbs 3:5 and 6 are my favorite bible verses.  It’s kind of funny that God would give me a job with constant change – working in an office with the revolving door of college students as my staff members!

So what are the new challenges/experiences coming to your life? 
– a new school year
– a new job
– a new baby
I am facing a new school year with a new student leadership team.  Will you pray for our Leadership Retreat, which is coming 8/19 – 8/22?  Joe and I will take our 10 student leaders away for an intense 4 day planning and spiritual retreat.  WNZR has just come through the experience of a power increase.  You won’t believe how many challenges this project has revealed…..and is still revealing (since our engineer was here yesterday talking about some equipment that is failing).  I am trusting God that the rewards will be revealed in the days to come.  I am also praying that every listener that tunes in to 90.9FM will hear a message of hope and grace.  Proverbs 3:5 & 6 is true – when you trust in God, he will direct and guide your path.

I’m so glad that on a sunny afternoon in August, our family decided to take on a new experience with all its challenges and rewards.  Little Miss Belle Marie Rinehart is a tiny reminder that it’s good to face a new challenge!

Marcy

This morning on the show, I talked about conflict resolution.  Hmm…heavy topic, huh?  Well, it is something that we all deal with every day.  If we are honest, we probably aren’t experts on how to handle conflict.  So I went to the experts, Focus on the Family, and found some wonderful tips on how to become the peacemaker at home and at work.  I was really encouraged by these tools this morning, I hope you are too.
*Pay close attention to the four forgiveness promises below!*  Making these promises will be difficult, but I believe they can help transform our relationships.
God Bless You!
Marcy Rinehart

From www.focusonthefamily.org (article by Mary J. Yerkes)

Tips for Biblical Conflict Resolution

Skill and practical tools for resolving conflict are important. But, according to Ken Sande, author of The Peacemaker—A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict and president of Peacemaker® Ministries (www.peacemaker.net*), “As important as practical skills are, the focus always has to be on motive. If our desire is to honor Christ, everything else will follow.”

Keeping that in mind, here some practical tips, gleaned from professional conciliators, that can help you resolve personal conflict:

• Define the problem and stick to the issue. Clearly define the issue and stay on topic during the discussion. Conflict deteriorates when the issue that started the conflict gets lost in angry words, past issues, or hurts tossed into the mix.
• Pursue purity of heart. “Take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye” (Matt. 7:5 NASB). Before approaching others regarding their faults and shortcomings, prayerfully face up to your own. Confess any way you might have contributed to the problem.
• Plan a time for the discussion. Plan a time to meet with the other person when you are both rested and likely to respond in love to the other person’s concerns. When you are tired, stressed, and distracted with other responsibilities, things rarely will go well.
• Affirm the Relationship. Affirm the relationship before clearly defining the problem. For example, “Our relationship is important to me. But when you don’t return my calls, I feel rejected and unimportant.” Avoid blaming the other person and saying, “You make me feel…” Instead, say, “When you do ‘A’, I feel ‘B’. ” Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, How to Have That Difficult Conversation You’ve Been Avoiding (Grand Rapids: Zondervan0 2005), 51.*
• Listen carefully. Once you share your feelings, listen to the other person’s perspective. Lean in; be present. “One of the most powerful communication techniques I know is to listen well,” points out Sande. Make sure your body language conveys that you are open to the other’s perspective. Reflect back to the individual what you believe you have heard. For example, “I heard you say that you feel expectations from me. Is that correct?”
• Forgive. Forgive others as Christ has forgiven you. “Forgiveness is both an event and a process,” Sande says. He suggests you make forgiveness concrete with four promises:
• • I promise I won’t bring this up and use it against you in the future.
  • I promise I’m not going to dwell on it in my own heart and mind.
  • I’m not going to talk to other people about it.
  • I’m not going to let it stand between us or hinder our personal relationship.
• Propose a solution. Remember the relationship is more important than the issue. When working toward a solution, consider Philippians 2:4-5: “Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.” Seek solutions that keep everyone’s best interests in mind.

By applying these practical tips and tools for resolving conflict to your relationships, you can turn obstacles into opportunities to demonstrate the love and power of the gospel. What’s more, you will know the deep, abiding joy that comes through obedience to God’s Word.

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God” (Matthew 5:9).